Affirming Masculinity Against Culture.

Almost everybody has either heard, been called, or accused of toxic masculinity. The deception lies at our understanding that being masculine is toxic. That's like training your cat to be more like your dog or teaching your dog, to be more like a cat. Basically that's what we are doing. It is not natural. In fact, our problem is a loss of true masculinity. The toxicity of it, is the consequence.

We must first grasp that our understanding of the toxicity of masculinity is so wide, it could almost embrace all masculinity as toxic. However, I will make the point that, what you refer as toxic masculinity actually stems from feminine behavior.

For example the men that hit women is a consequence of a man being effiminate, cause their actions are contrary to what true masculunity entails. For one, no man should feel so threatened by a woman that they retaliate with violence. This is acting out of emotion, devoid of reasoning. We need rational men, that control their emotions. More masculinity, not less.

Real men know, it's an unfair fight. A real man does not feel threatened enough with a woman to retaliate with physical force. That's why we make male and female competitions, separate in different sports. This is not to say one sex is better than another, it is merely accepting that men and women are biologically different. The violence is a result, of a lack of the masculine aspect of being more rational, than emotional. 

Also a lack of understanding, that men have always physically defended their women, against foreign invaders, as well as local tribes and hostile individuals.True masculinity is embracing the role of the protector; it's effeminate behavior to be so afraid or offended by women to resort to violence towards them. True musculinity is protecting your woman, not harming her.

Just saying a biological fact today, could have you facing losing your job, losing political office and so forth, because they merely accepted that men and women are biologically different. We are trying so hard as a society to separate sex and gender. I truly believe America has actual real problems to address, instead of misgendering.

However as expected, bad ideas embraced by the public have consequences. The system is deliberately demasculinizing men, and encouraging feminine women to be more masculine. Apparently this would solve for this problem of the 'patriachy'. Feminine men are easier to control, and women by nature are more submissive. This only benefits, those in power.

Who really has the privileges, is it really men? Most companies have policies that favor women and minorities. The result is that, it does not matter if you are truly competent, but your identity gives you an advantage.

Why is it humorous to humiliate men in the media? The dads are not truly valued for who they are, or what they do. Also, women purchase 80% of households items. It is nauseating, to see the media pandering to feminist agendas. That is why the dads in shows are lazy, fat,abusive or stupid. If you paid attention you would realize, this is most shows.

They are pandering to women on a massive scale, because they line those companies profits with advertising that promotes females to shop. They don't care about your well being. Whatever lie is to be accepted, as long as it does not offend women, and shapes their gender ideologies.

This has broken up families. The man is supposed to be the head of the family. Not because he is more important but in order to have structure .The welfare state, encourages single motherhood and perpetuates poverty. How many times have you heard women say they don't need men?

The infrastructure, car and house you use, was probably built by men. Just stop. People show their ignorance by saying, they don't need men. There is also the gender wage gap deception. Men make more sometimes because they sacrifice more for their families and do more dangerous jobs, but that gap doesn't exist. In fact companies are more likely to give you more opportunity because of the political climate. You have a privilege in that respect.

The problem is that women look at the top ten percent of men and make assumptions about all men. I hate to say it but the average guy is invisible to those women.They look at the rich, successful man and assume most men are like that but men comprise most of the homeless and of the prisoners. Why don't you want equality in that?

They look at men like a buffet, and want the best for themselves. Yes, most men are leaders in business, which took discipline and time. They point to this as an example of patriarchy. They feel entitled to the same benefits and salary, just because they are a woman. Unfortunately for them, in the real world respect and profit is earned. It is not just given based on your identity.

The money that is just given by the government to the welfare state, comes as a hindrance to progress. They promote single motherhood and poverty, for if both parents are working full time, they probably could not qualify to be on welfare. As an African, it upsets me that most aborted babies are black, and most won't have a dad.

Your dad cannot be your mom, and your mom cannot be your dad. People have lost their minds and there are consequences subsequently. Most men in prison were raised by single mothers. They got the love of the mom, but not the discipline a man enforces on his family.

The basic structure of a society, to progress, is the prevalence of nuclear families. The mother's nurture and love, as well as the father's discipline and love. Nuclear Families have proved to be the most successful. Marriage is high among the wealthy, but low or non existent among the poor.

While they are telling you, you don't need a man and then go home to their husbands. You can rock to "all the single ladies" by Beyonce, she will go back home to her husband Jay-Z.You will go back home to your cat, and sleep alone, again. The government becomes your man, as welfare provides for you but doesn't love you like a man. You can say you dont need a man all day, but deep down you know, you want to be loved.

Some have gone as far as involve themselves in the hook up culture. Even though men are affected by random one night stands. It is not as negative of an effect, as it is on women. First, comes the emotional trauma and the more promiscuous they are, it reduces their chances of being able to pair bond. Her ability to make lasting bonds with men, has diminished.

It actually makes them less attractive to men. While media pushes this filth and glamour in stripping or provocatively sexually dressed. Men don't want promiscuous women, yes they will have sex with them but not marry them. People are literally proud of being used, and they brag about it like men.

 No one will cherish you as a lady, if you dont carry yourself with respect. Back then, they did not have paternity tests; so if you dont trust her sexually, you don't even know if it's yours. Some men denied paternity with good reason.The men are not being toxic in this respect, just rational. Raising a kid is a big responsibility.Those women's greatest  asset is their sexuality. Once the man gets what you advertised, he leaves.

The men that lead with their wallets, get used for money. Women that lead with their sexuality, get used for sex. The people are simply getting what you advertise and you can always say no to sex or to a purchase. Women control access to sex, men control access to relationships.

The problem is that men are absent in their children's lives. Sometimes the mother makes it almost impossible for the baby daddy to see their kids, dads are paying child support to kids that aren't even there's and don't even know. A few states now have a mandatory paternity test, we are moving in the right direction. 

30 percent of men are raising a kid that is not theirs and they probably will never know about it. If you are married, the kids are automatically legally concidered the husbands, if they get divorced; he may have to pay for children that aren't his. The courts rationale for doing that, is for the well being of the children but this man now has to give the mother child support. If it's not yours, why?

I am still struggling to know what exactly this patriarchy means to you? Well most bosses are men cause they put in the time and earned it. These men are in the most danger from women. A sexual accusation whether true or not, will ruin a man's reputation. Also it is an uphill battle to prove your innocence, and even if proven innocent, it does not fix your reputation or get you, your job back. 

So many men are in jail over false sexual advances accusations,  women ten to twenty years later admit,  it was consensual or it was just a lie. That man however has lost years of his life for something, he did not do and there are no consequences to the women that do that. We need a new law that punishes those who deliberately, pose false accusations. If it cost that man years of his life, she deserves consequences.

In fact that could mean the loss of his job as the company does not want to associate with that image. Also, prenups have been revoked often, it is not complete protection of your property and money. Most female millionaires became like that, not because they build technology like Bill Gates or by divorce by Melinda. Jeff Bezos is also a victim of losing millions due to divorce.

Well most divorces are initiated by women. These are the consequences of pandering to women in the media. They leave a marriage because they are not happy. It's very selfish when you have kids, your so called happiness comes at the cost of theirs, and do marriage vows not matter? Through thick and thin together, remember?

Now, they are destined to be raised by a single mom, and statically have a higher chance of being in prison. Nuclear families provide the best structure to raise a kid. The same two, who made them, should be the same two, who raise them. I find this to be true; hard men produce good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hardship. We have weak men.We need to embrace, not demonize musculinity.

Since gender apparently is merely psychological. As a shrewd example, a rapist that was sentenced to a woman's prison because he claims his a woman. A rock is a rock, regardless of what you call it.Also, women are at a disadvantage competing against men in sports. I don't understand this, it's not fair to women.

Real masculinity is a man that is a protector or provider or both. Toxic masculinity is prevalent among single mom's kids. Your mom cannot teach you, how to be a man. A society of men run by emotions and not reasoning, is on a trajectory to destruction. We need more musculinity, not less.